All posts filed under: Self Development

Self development is the art of finding what you need, it is not really about going it alone although there are times when that is appropriate trying to work out what you need requires a clear definition of who you are in the moment. To avoid the tendency to become self critical or engage in an ongoing self bashing in the name of development seek tools that match your issues and desires, seek guidance to ensure objectivity in your path forward and lastly seek to be at peace with who you are

Healing the Past

  There is a huge difference between healing the past and living in it, for many it becomes a life mission devoted to self which is usually the opposite to the desired outcome. There are those who are self oriented, using the ideal of healing as finding a legitimate way to focus on self without recrimination or guilt, and still others find that unanswerable question of why me can hold them in cognitive therapies for years without a genuine release from the circumstances that initiated enough damage to require healing while ignoring that their own behaviours take over where that circumstance left off. Psychics are forever rooting current issues into past lives, potentially causing damage as a person in pain will grab onto anything that assuages any feelings of guilt, fear, anger and grief. If there is one thing we have become adept at it would be avoidance, evasion and denial, a trifecta of destructive patterning. Healing should be a transient focus, initially perhaps engaging a number of strategies to resolve longstanding problems, but any past …

Tarot Tips: Ten of Wands

What is the essence of the problem, for many it becomes responsibility, they see this as a deal breaker after a while feeling it prevents them from being who they want to be. This is a feeling that is presented by the 10 of wands, after getting what they want the person feels weighted down by the duties and responsibilities their choices have given them.The man who wants the partner but doesn’t want a family leading to his partner applying pressure because that is an expected part of her relationship dreams. The woman who has children but feels she has no value in the world so feels her world is closing in on her because she cannot do the things she wanted to do, often becoming resentful of the freedoms she has lost. The couple that buy a house and then cannot afford the holidays they used to take due to a mortgage not to mention the repayments on the cars they bought. The person who doesn’t want to work but resents the requirements of …

Love; is it Always Conditional?

With so much hocus pocus around love, those with a spiritual bent have a real challenge accepting love for what it is, not because they are fussier than the rest of society but because too often  they see challenges in love as an indication that it isn’t the best love they could have. There seems to be an overriding ideal that a soulmate is a good love, that a twin flame is a special love and right there they have placed a condition on the love available to them. For those who don’t ascribe to the new age cliches there is less interest in giving love and more in taking it, and this i would say is the root of misguided love practices. Society is geared for change in the love relationship department, new laws around marriage are always in the news but, what is genuinely ignored is the ongoing and constant manipulation of property settlements. There is no doubt that we have less to say about who gets what than we do about who …

The illusion of freedom comes when you have tied your  own hands

Are You Free Spirited?

Being a Free Spirit is about doing what brings you joy regardless of what that is, opposition, or what others think.  It is not about doing nothing, ignoring responsibilities, taking drugs or exploring addictions. There are a multitude of people who are co dependent, there are a multitude of those who think that their traumas are worse than others simply because they have not developed the character to use those experiences in ways that are creative, preferring instead to hold the world, their families and their friends ransom in an effort to make anyone responsible for their happiness or misery. I love the ideal of being free spirited while recognizing that very few can make a claim to be that, starting out with an ideal can quickly turn into being trapped when reality and duty overwhelm lifestyle and joy. It is not so difficult though, to have your lifestyle dictate the terms of your obligations so that they reflect your personality rather than altering your personality and dreams to fit in with a weighty life model. Do you need …

Body Centred Healing: FEAR

Fear is “an unpleasant and often strong emotion caused by anticipation or awareness of danger.“ Fear is completely natural and helps people to recognize and respond to dangerous situations and threats. Without fear it would impossible to balance risk with outcomes and therefore it would be difficult to assess safety in situations, what we are talking about then is irrational fear. What is fear? There are a few types of fear, the first being responsive fear, or fear based on a real situation. If someone or something hurts you, you have a reason to fear it in the future. The second is predictive fear. This is rooted in dangerous situations, things that are known to be dangerous that cause a person to avoid a threat in the first place, for example, checking for traffic before crossing the road. This is essentially taught fears, where you may not have experienced the threat in life, but have been taught safety as a survival skill. After that comes exaggerated or emotional fear which involves an individual “recalling past …

Self Healing is the new Black!!!

When it comes to healing your own life it can seem that many obstacles can impede a forward direction. Too often there is only one thing actually causing the problem, this is usually simply an unwillingness to make a change or to explore a new perspective or attitude. It seems we are all too willing to defend a strategy in life, career or relationships that has not worked, this doesn’t mean it never worked. in fact it may have been the perfect strategy a number of years ago, Life has a way of changing, having babies, moving homes, increasing responsibilites and even discovering a new desire all require flexibility in life goals if we are not to end up resentful or feeling as though life just isn’t delivering what we had hoped for. Many spend years trying to heal self, to be better people, parents or partners only to find true happiness still eludes, this has the potential to become depression or anxiety, the origin for which is not always in a deep and unconscious …

Energy Therapies: Core Healing: 7 Root causes of Disease

Core Healing is designed to reveal the base energy and experience that altered the way you experience life. You need to know why you do what you do, but you also need to acknowledge that you do it and not just buy into an ongoing angst over the initial experiences and trauma.  

Change: an inhibitor to success?

Change in itself causes a great deal of anxiety in many who seek to create new situations and outcomes in their lives. It is the very thing required for success when things are going wrong and it is a stumbling block that can be so wildly misunderstood or resisted that failure becomes inevitable. If you are seeking to lose weight, quit smoking or create healthier relationships you know that you must change behaviours. You also know that if you do not, you will not reach your goals and sometimes even go backwards or feel as though nothing you do is right. The question becomes, why would you resist the very thing you need to alter when you want something else? The answer is simple, if you want to create something new in your life, you need to change your attitude. You need to understand what it is you are resisting, and you need to know what you will do to move past that obstacle. The reason you resist may be purely attitude after a life …

Seeking the Divine

A whole lot of time and energy is expended seeking the Divine without a clear picture or understanding of what the Divine is. Much of the time we are chasing an idea presented by someone else, and just as often their perception is different to our own. So what is the Divine, in the dictionary you will find it is of or relating to God or a God. You will also find it relates to heavenly or excellent, and just to add to the mix the dictionary defines the verb as learning through intuition or magic. As in all life perception is more real than the actuality, so your perception of the divine will impact greatly on what it is you find. When seeking the divine be clear on your understanding of the word and your intention. My perception of the Divine is really quite simple. Source. that is it, to me Divine =  Source, Source = Pure Energy , Quanta = Smallest, ie nothing is smaller. To have Divine inspiration means to me that …