Being a Free Spirit is about doing what brings you joy regardless of what that is, opposition, or what others think. It is not about doing nothing, ignoring responsibilities, taking drugs or exploring addictions. There are a multitude of people who are co dependent, there are a multitude of those who think that their traumas are worse than others simply because they have not developed the character to use those experiences in ways that are creative, preferring instead to hold the world, their families and their friends ransom in an effort to make anyone responsible for their happiness or misery. I love the ideal of being free spirited while recognizing that very few can make a claim to be that, starting out with an ideal can quickly turn into being trapped when reality and duty overwhelm lifestyle and joy.
It is not so difficult though, to have your lifestyle dictate the terms of your obligations so that they reflect your personality rather than altering your personality and dreams to fit in with a weighty life model. Do you need a mortgage if you want to travel the world? Do you need to work 60 hours a week if you just want to enjoy your kids? Do you need a degree if you want a job that is not going to take over your life? I have a sister who wanted a dream property, she and her husband sweated and put a huge effort into getting what they wanted, then they wanted it to be better so refinanced what would have been a mortgage free home, only to work and pay that off to find over 4-5 year cycles the continued improvement of the property has left them feeling ill with financial distress as they approach retirement age. Over the last 10 years it has become noticeable that when they talk of travel, going fishing or even taking short trips, their resources have been used by this property or the needs of the property force them to say no to things they have always enjoyed in the past. It is evident that at a time when they could well be enjoying their later years, they have consistently applied more and more pressure to themselves as they fit the dream while living the harsh reality of creating and maintaining.A truly free spirit would ask themselves if this is reflecting the dream of if they have become caught up in something larger and more important than their life experience.
A free spirit would always be seeking freedom of choice, not freedom from responsibility and caring. This means that when your dream no longer fits you, there is always another choice, we talk about people like this quite a bit, few though they may be, They can build an empire and yet walk away when they have exhausted their own creative potential, they can surf every day only to wake up one day and decide they want to own a nice home and they can build a family then realising their family has grown run off to explore the world. A true free spirit knows they never make a bad choice, because freedom means taking responsibility for the choices you make and knowing that you can always make another. Meeting your obligations doesn’t mean being dictated by them, it means you are in the creative zone, the only question you need to ask yourself is are you building a wall or a road. When you fit your choices in with the lifestyle you want, you will always have plenty of energy and you will always feel you are doing what you want to do. You will always have the resources to do what you want, when you work toward that lifestyle rather than creating one thing exclusively to the detriment of all other things. Lifestyle is about the whole. a house is not a lifestyle, a car is not a lifestyle neither are addictions or jobs. All of these things though, can take precious resources and prevent us from being a free spirit floating through life in a way that always reflects our happiness rather than our obligations, being creative is the fountain of youth, reinvention and the ability to know when your dream life no longer reflects your dream and then choosing again are all aspects familiar to the free spirit.